Monday, 26 March 2012
Sunday, 18 March 2012
Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does. ~William James
I have been blessed in my Life. I have been blessed with true friendship and with people who have acted as Lighthouses. They've guided me home, to safe and calm waters, when all around me has been storm and dangerous rocks. I am one lucky woman.
My experiences have led me to believe that it really is true: no person is an island. We can't do things on our own. We are not meant to. It is through our relationships with other people that we learn who we really are. This is why it's so important to choose your friends and lovers with such care. Your friends and lovers act as mirrors, reflecting back at you, your values and beliefs about yourself and the World in general.
If your mirrors are distorted, your view of yourself and your World will be distorted. There are some people in Life who are whingers and whiners. Don't get me wrong, I love a good whinge and whine with the best of them. Let's face it, Life really is hard. Shit happens to good people. I think it is important to be able to say so, to acknowledge the situation as it really is. But staying in that whinging and whining mode for any period of time is not a good idea. It saps you of your energy, motivation and lets in helplessness and depression.
Having people around you who reflect your natural goodness back to you, acts as a reminder that although Life might be shit, you are not. It's also a very good thing to have someone lay it down. If you are acting up, out of your pain; having a good friend give you a kick up the backside is one of the most loving and most helpful things they can do.
My NLP work, I believe is my opportunity to give something back. I've learnt the hard way, so my clients don't need to. And frankly, everyone needs a cheerleader in their Life and it is a privilege to do this.