Sunday 18 March 2012

Ripples

Act as if what you do makes a difference.  It does.  ~William James

I have been blessed in my Life. I have been blessed with true friendship and with people who have acted as Lighthouses. They've guided me home, to safe and calm waters, when all around me has been storm and dangerous rocks. I am one lucky woman. 

My experiences have led me to believe that it really is true: no person is an island. We can't do things on our own. We are not meant to. It is through our relationships with other people that we learn who we really are. This is why it's so important to choose your friends and lovers with such care. Your friends and lovers act as mirrors, reflecting back at you, your values and beliefs about yourself and the World in general. 

If your mirrors are distorted, your view of yourself and your World will be distorted. There are some people in Life who are whingers and whiners. Don't get me wrong, I love a good whinge and whine with the best of them. Let's face it, Life really is hard. Shit happens to good people. I think it is important to be able to say so, to acknowledge the situation as it really is. But staying in that whinging and whining mode for any period of time is not a good idea. It saps you of your energy, motivation and lets in helplessness and depression. 

Having people around you who reflect your natural goodness back to you, acts as a reminder that although Life might be shit, you are not. It's also a very good thing to have someone lay it down. If you are acting up, out of your pain; having a good friend give you a kick up the backside is one of the most loving and most helpful things they can do.

My NLP work, I believe is my opportunity to give something back. I've learnt the hard way, so my clients don't need to. And frankly, everyone needs a cheerleader in their Life and it is a privilege to do this.


13 comments:

  1. The older I get, the more judiciously I select my friends - and have let some fade while a handful are cultivated and treasured like fragile beautiful flowers. Glad to see you out blogging again - I havent wanted to for weeks.

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    1. Hey Chickory, thanks so much for popping by.

      Some times you do need to have a break from blogging and just breathe. I think I just needed to be quiet to find my path. How very Zen of me! ;-)

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  2. My life is enriched because you are in it.

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    1. Oh honey, not half as much as mine has been, by your presence.

      Lots of love to you.

      Keep writing! xxx

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  3. Increasingly, most of my friends are via the Interweb these days. Especially honored and privileged to have met some of them in person.

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    1. The thing I truly adore about the internet is that like-minded people are never far away.

      Hugs and hugs to you my darling.

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    2. Let's be the bread in an LX sandwich!

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    3. This is shaping up to be a really great day!

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  4. My Dear Roses,
    I recall a discussion that we had some time back about Mirrors!
    Looks like you have had some time to reflect on it here. My distorted mirror is finally starting to clear a little... The patina grows richer with time and it's chips and flaws remain... but I can view them with a smile now knowing that they have been people and parts of my life that I can now embrace and see them for what they really are... Contributions to a life as I am!

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  5. My darling, you are so lovely, doing anything other than contributing to life as yourself, for me feels like a let down.

    Your generosity and creativity shine through.

    I'm glad your mirror is showing you how fabulous you are and if you ever doubt it, talk to me. Happy to remind you.

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  6. you are truly one of those people that make people better for knowing you. I'm so glad you're going to be able to help people in their lives and I know it will be a great venture for you. I look forward to being part of your journey. xoxo

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    1. Bless your generous and warm heart.

      It's me who is grateful for you. You've been a shining light guiding me through some serious stuff. Knowing you has inspired me to make the changes I've made recently.

      You're someone I consider a true friend. Even though we've never hung out IRL.
      xxx

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